DIVORCE  DIVA

~BOOT CAMP~

"A true diva has dismissed the drama. A true diva's heart is open and she's ready to play by her own rules ~rules that are gentle and kind"

Hi, I’m Dabney and I’m so very glad that you are here.  It tells me that you are ready to take the needed steps that will help you define your divorce and recovery on your terms. It is time for you to gain clarity and I am so proud of you!

I want to take a moment to share with you my moment of clarity. The post below is taken from my blog...It captures my thinking the day I realized that I wanted to have a healthy divorce. Although my journey is so much further along and I can with certainty call myself a Diva...it is important to always remember the day I began my work. Take a look...and I hope it leads to defining clarity for you!
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I woke up this morning feeling as if something was not quite right. I brushed it aside telling myself I just needed my coffee. Walking into the kitchen a plaque that hangs from one of my cabinet caught my eye. “Put on your big girl panties and deal with it”….it was at that moment I realized what it was my soul was trying to remind me of as I woke up earlier….

It was exactly one year ago today that the man I was married to for 15 years moved out of our home. To the minute…one year ago….I sat in my friends whirlpool tub…jets soothing my body….glass of wine in hand (… it was 9:30 in the morning…but it was five o’clock somewhere). My good friend had come to my house and taken me to hers and “cared” for me. She did this so I wouldn’t be home when “he” packed his things.

I made it through the day…I had been preparing for it for years. You heard me…I said years. We had been in therapy during those years and remained in therapy for months after he moved out. Our goal: to have a healthy divorce. So, I was prepared….I was ready…and we made the choice together.

I hear so often about how people handle divorce…and recently watched an episode of Oprah. The topic focused on adults who are still suffering the trauma of their parent’s divorce. While watching I realized with clarity that is not only the divorce that causes trauma which affects children into adulthood. Yet, it is the way we as parents handle the divorce and our reactions to it, which matter most. It was apparent on this episode of Oprah that the pain the adult children of divorce were recalling was in reaction to parents who were unable to handle their loss…and turned it into anger…rage…depression…all of which affected the children and their development.

Divorce will impact our children, that is certain. If we are careful however…aware of our grief…our pain…the anger…and chose to address our issues and take responsibility for our emotional health, divorce will have a far less impact.

It is the words on the plaque that I saw this morning, that my friend gave me on that day one year ago, as I sat in the tub…bubbles swirling around me. At that moment, I knew how I would handle my divorce….I knew it was time to….”

Put on My Big Girl Panties and Deal with It!

I wanted to share my story with you, because I have been where you are right now.  I have hit rock bottom, wondering how and if I would ever be able to get up.  I struggled with a range of emotions…anger….rage…depression…loneliness.  It was not until I made the decision to get BETTER not BITTER, that BIG changes in my life started to take place.

Once I put on my “big girl panties”…my life started to change dramatically.  As I became in control of my reactions to the divorce process…the hurt…the pain…I started to become happier.  When that happened, my children became happier.  Then, I started to notice that I was attracting happier people into my life. 

Today, Mr. Ex and I are friends.  We co~parent well together.  My children are doing better than I ever dreamed….and I have become more successful and happier than I have been in years.  The people who surround me now are positive and supportive.  Gone are the toxic relationships I was attracting because I was stuck in the victim mode of the divorce process.  In walked Mr. Yummy….I can go on and on….life is GOOD!

So many of you have contacted me privately and I continue to be overwhelmed with a desire to help each of you on an individual basis.  Many of you are experiencing such pain and uncertainty now and have been reaching out to me for help.  I WANT to help all of you!

 Obviously, my schedule only permits me to hold a limited amount of spaces for private clients and I do not have availability to offer all of you this plan.  In an ideal world, I would make each of you my best friend, and talk to you for hours as you heal.   Although I have tried…via instant messages on Facebook, private phone calls and constant emails…and I have loved helping many of you in that manner, I have come to the realization, that providing unlimited help to my fellow divas in this way, is not possible either. 

• To change the way you view and react to your situations?

• To quickly find the clarity you have been looking for?

• To learn effective communication techniques that you can put into action immediately?

• To take action on changing your behavior and reaching your goals?

• To have Support…support….support?
   

·         Week One: The Diva:  Who is she and how do I get there?  Here is where we will lay the groundwork for where we are and where we are headed.  We will define and establish your MO~JO…that specific part of your personality that will give you strength and power to get through emotional blocks you may have to move up and out of where you are!

·         Week Two: The Divorced Diva and Mr. Ex~ We will cover a great deal on this day.  Don’t be surprised if I throw in a bonus call to teach you the many strategies in working with Mr. Ex. This is an area where many of you have great difficulties. 

·         Week Three:  The Divorced Diva and Parenting
Minimizing the trauma divorce will play in the lives of your child.~ As an expert in parenting skills training I’ve spent years teaching parents how to implement proven techniques to help you parent effectively. This will be an amazing hour!

·         Week Four:  The Divorced Diva and Extended Family/Friends
We will examine the relationships you have and how they will likely change following a divorce.  We will discuss strategies to minimize feelings of alienation and pain in addition to ways you can set boundaries with those around you. 

·         Week Five:  The Divorced Diva and Dating~ Who is your Mr. Yummy and how will you find him?  After doing the work on yourself, you will be ready to enter into a healthy relationship!  We will talk about how to attract a healthy and successful relationship to your life.  This is FUN !

·         Week Six:  Bonus Call:  Open Forum for Questions left unanswered! ~ During our last call together, I will open the phone to any and all questions and comments you may have.  This is a fabulous time to share your newfound MO~JO with the rest of us!  It is also a time you may want to ask some lingering questions or concerns you may still have.   I love these calls and so will you!

Here's what you get:

7.5 Hours with Dabney!  Each call is 60 minutes of amazing information to help you unleash your inner DIVA~ followed by 15 minutes of Q&A with Dabney! You will quickly learn that many women have similar questions and concerns…and you will love the Q&A segment! (Value = $3,000.00)

MP3 Downloads of Each Call!   You will be able to easily download recording of each call.  This is fabulous because you will be able to listen to the information as often as you wish, review or catch up easily on your MP3 player, computer, or even make your own CD's.  The calls and information is yours forever! (Value $497)

~What you can expect~

~Weekly topics will be discussed during our group calls.  They will be specific to changing the way you look at and react to your situation!

~ You will receive personal feedback, and direct coaching during weekly calls.

~ Time in between calls to put into action what we have discussed.  You will quickly find the clarity you have been looking for! 

~You will begin using the step by step strategies and effective communication techniques I will teach you into action- and report back to me via email on your success.  Then on our next call you will get feedback and clarification in ‘real-life' situations through discussion!

~ Daily, Weekly & Monthly accountability to ensure that you are taking action on changing your behavior and reaching your goals!!   This will be done through completing “homework” and letting me know via email how you are doing.  I am here for you!

~Support…support….support….from me and all members from our Diva Boot camp!

You will at NO additional cost be able to attend calls with other experts in areas of personal development!  These experts will give you even more strategies and techniques to help you develop into the powerful DIVA you are, while taking control of your life! (Value $1,000)

This 5 week program is valued at over $4,000, but for a limited time you won’t have to pay anything near that. My passion is in helping women and honestly, this is the only way I will be able to reach such a large group and still be able to run my business.

I am prepared to go this low to help you make BIG changes in your life. What are YOU prepared to do to promote a better life for you…your children and all relationships you are in?

The program will begin on May 6.  For each week you join in advance, you will receive one 30-minute one-on-one coaching session with me! 

Did I mention that a private coaching call has a minimum $200 dollar value? 

If you sign up today, April 8, you will receive THREE calls with me. A $600 value. 

Xoxo,

HURRY... Go Now!

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$197.00

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